DISCLAIMER – this post has been sponsored by eHarmony, but all words/thoughts are my own.
I’ve received some rather chastising emails and comments from you about my complete and utter lack of posts over the past few months, so it’s probably time that I came clean.
You see, the reason that I’ve been M.I.A…is because I’ve met someone.
Someone incredible. Smart. Funny. Sweet. Loving. Someone who sweeps me off my feet every single day.
Dear readers, your one and only Kitchenwench is in love.
Why is this such an announcement, you ask? Well you see, after a string of affairs and failed relationships spanning many many years, I took an 18 month break from the world of romance and seduction to evaluate what it was that I truly wanted, and where I had been going wrong in the past. A period of self-reflection and growth was needed, so I gave myself the time and space to do so.
After that, I decided that I was ready to dip my toe back into the dating pool, but had a think about how I wanted to do it. I’m not the kind of person who enjoys clubbing (since I like being able to SPEAK to other people, rather than YELL!), and have absolutely pathetic alcohol tolerance so going out and frequenting bars wasn’t an option either.
Especially because booze tends to get quite pricey, despite the fact that I’m a cheap date!
I signed up for a few online dating sites and decided to browse around. I’ve heard the arguments that this takes the romance out of dating, but as far as I was concerned, it was a way to cut through some of the preliminary time-wasting bullshit that you get when you are meeting someone new.
Listens to One Direction? DENIED.
Takes drugs? NO-NO
Anti-carb health freak? COMPUTER SAYS NO (come on, I need someone who can eat my cakes and cookies. Not a euphemism…)
Considers themselves a Juggalo? Dear gods, get the hell away from me!
Note – I’m not saying that there’s anything WRONG with being a Juggalo (or anything else in the above list), just that those traits are deal-breakers for me!
After some false starts and some very interesting first dates (involving wigs, gimp masks, alcoholics and even someone who didn’t think twice about burping in my face), I met R who had me smitten from the first date.
Three months on we are head over heels in love, and I am deliriously happy – happier than I’ve been in any other relationship that I can remember. And while I understand that online dating has some stigma attached to it, I have no problems telling people that R and I met “online”.
So when I was approached by eHarmony asking if I’d like to do a post on online dating and run a competition for them, I thought “Why the hell not?”
If you’re single and looking to venture into the world of online dating, here are my tips on how to go about it:
- Put some time into writing a profile that shows your personality. A picture will draw someone’s eye, but a well-written profile will help to catch their attention
- Upload a great (but realistic) photo or two. Get a little creative, but don’t go overboard and upload something that looks like a glamour shot that’s been airbrushed to within an inch of its life.
- Don’t be a lazy correspondent! A lot of guys complained to me that they hadn’t had much luck getting responses from women (the average hit rate tended to be one out of 10 writing back), so even if you’re not interested, be polite and write back to let them know rather than leaving them hanging!
- Take initiative! Ladies, there’s nothing wrong with actually browsing the site yourselves and saying hello to the men that take your fancy. I understand that some women (such as myself) like the man to make the first move, but initiating contact is something you can do where you’ve got nothing to lose. Even if they don’t write back, trust me when I say your bruised ego will bounce back 🙂
- Correspond a little before meeting. This doesn’t mean emailing back and forth for months, but once you’ve had enough online flirting to see that there appears to be a connection, take it offline and see if it translates in person too! Even if things don’t pan out, at the very least you’ll have a little – or a lot – of fun!
So whether you are looking for Sydney singles or Melbourne lovers, don’t be afraid to try the online dating game and see if there is someone for you!
Now, onto the competition!
Thanks to the post sponsors over at eHarmony, I have a $300 gift voucher to RedBalloon to give away! With Christmas just around the corner, this means you could treat your partner to a fantastic experience for themselves or for the two of you to share – perhaps a dawn hot air balloon trip over the city? Or maybe sky-diving is more your thing? If you’re a foodie, how about an eight-course degustation at a wonderful restaurant?
In order to enter, all you have to do is answer this question in the comments section below – what is your idea of a perfect first date?
You can also get a bonus entry by circling eHarmony on Google+, and then leaving another comment below to say you have done so.
You can be as cheesy or as original as you like, but the best answer will win this fantastic prize (and maybe also be able to cross something off their Christmas or even their bucket list!).
The competition closes on Sunday 4 November and the winner will be selected by Tuesday 6 November, so make sure to leave your entry in the comments section below!