C’mon baby…make me laugh!
Funnymen Dylan Moran (left) and Simon Pegg (right)
So, everyone knows the old adage “laughter is the best medicine”. There’s another side to it that I think almost any woman will admit - laughter is also great foreplay! No, I’m not talking about pre-nookie bedroom foreplay, but the dance we do when we’re testing the waters, playing on initial attraction, playing in that zone before you’re at the point where you turn to the person you’re talking to, waggle your eyebrows and say “so, your place or mine?”
Kidding! Well, kinda…
My post on ‘nice guys’/alpha males may have led to the perception that those were the main traits of attraction, but while they may catch your eye, they don’t get you much further than that. Beyond that point, some find sophistication to be a turn-on, while others favour thoughtful intelligence.
Both are great, mind you, but personally, I find that laughter is far more attractive than both combined. Take the two aforementioned actor/comedians, for example. Okay sure, they both have the slight scruffiness that I find INCREDIBLY attractive (I’ve never been a huge fan of the clean-cut, muscle-bound suit, preferring the slightly scruffy and casual male who still scrubs up nicely every now and then when required), but they also have the ability to have me rolling about on the floor, clutching my sides as I gasp desperately for air while laughing so hard that my abs and cheeks are in agony the following day.
A great example is the actor Steve Carell - on screen from 1991, it was when he played Brick Tamland in Will Ferrell’s “Anchorman” that he suddenly shot into the public consciousness. While the movie itself wasn’t a huge hit, everyone I spoke to mentioned two memorable things about the movie, the ‘jazz flute’ scene, and Brick, a very simple character that was used as a sort of slightly uncomfortable slapstick release, which a surprising number of women I know found adorable, or even hot!
This article outlines what physiological changes we undergo when we laugh:
“We change physiologically when we laugh. We stretch muscles throughout our face and body, our pulse and blood pressure go up, and we breathe faster, sending more oxygen to our tissues.”
According to another article, laughter (or even the anticipation of a good ol’ bellyachin’ laugh) causes “significant neuroendocrine/hormone effects”, one of them being a dramatic increase in endorphins, the body’s natural feel-good chemical.
When you take that final point into account, is it really any wonder then that we find those who can make us giggle or chortle attractive? All that laughing releasing endorphins to buzz around the body, making you feel awake and good, which we then attribute directly to the person making us laugh - do it well and you’re a shoo-in to get your conversational partner’s attention (and phone number!)
Of course, this isn’t necessarily an easy task - everyone has a different sense of humour, and finding someone who clicks with yours and appreciates your wonderful (or cheesy as all hell) jokes can be a difficult task in its own right. However, in my experience, nowhere near enough men try this approach, trying too hard to appear all mature and sophisticated, or running pick up lines that have me (and my mates) rolling eyes toward the ceiling.
So, all you chaps out there, the next time you spot some pretty little thing who takes your fancy, sidle up next to her and tell her your best joke - if she bursts out into laughter, congratulations, you just got your first foot in the door! Trust me, you’ll have more success with this approach than you would by trying to rub your crotch against her derrière or telling her that “heaven is missing an angel”.
Trust me on this one.
EDIT:
The inspiration for this post was that I saw “Run, fatboy, run” with my best mate tonight, which starred both Simon Pegg and Dylan Moran, and both of us almost died from asphyxiation during the movie since we were laughing so damn much!
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